{"id":2476,"date":"2023-09-08T17:02:24","date_gmt":"2023-09-08T17:02:24","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/intherapy.london\/?p=2476"},"modified":"2023-09-28T15:53:49","modified_gmt":"2023-09-28T15:53:49","slug":"codependency-therapy-london","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intherapy.london\/counselling-therapy-london\/codependency-therapy-london\/","title":{"rendered":"Codependency Therapy"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Codependency Therapy in London<\/h1>\n\n\n\n
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Codependency therapy is for people who tend to become overly invested in social relationships, so much so that they sacrifice their own self care and needs to make the relationship work. If you’re overly obsessed with your partner, always doing your best to please them, or suffer from low self esteem, you may have codependency issues.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The codependent personality tends to develop during childhood, shaped by early relationships with parents. It can stem from childhood abuse<\/a>, parents with mental health issues, or having a codependent parent whose behaviours you’ve inherited. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Codependence was first talked about in the 1970s, when it referred to the partners of alcoholics or people who who were dependent on chemicals. These days it is more of an umbrella term referring to people who easily lose their sense of identity in relationships, along with their needs, wants and sense of purpose. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Codependency is a learned behaviour, and can be effectively treated with codependency therapy. In Codependency counselling, you’ll explore your past family relationships to identify where the behaviour originates from. You’ll also learn to get in touch with feelings which may have been buried, so you can begin to establish a sense of independence. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

It takes time to recover, but codependency therapy is the first step to claiming your power and forming healthy and rewarding relationships. If you’re in a co-dependent relationship and need help in breaking free from the destructive patterns of codependency, please get in touch to arrange an initial session.<\/p>\n\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n

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16 Signs you may be codependent:<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
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  1. You have a pervasive sense of low self-esteem and lack of self-worth, often seeking approval from others to the point of neglecting your own needs and wants.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  2. You find it extremely difficult to set and maintain healthy boundaries, often getting overly involved in other people’s lives and problems, even sacrificing your own well-being in the process.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  3. You feel an overwhelming responsibility for others’ feelings, thoughts, and actions, which sometimes leads to you taking on more work than is fair or necessary.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  4. You tend to suppress your emotions and have a hard time identifying and expressing your true feelings and reality, which can result in anxiety, depression, and other mental health issues.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  5. You might sometimes try to influence other peoples behaviours, a tactic that often backfire and make things worse.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  6. You harbor a deep fear of rejection and abandonment, making you more likely to tolerate abuse and stay in dysfunctional relationships just to keep them intact.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  7. You have a tendency to deny or ignore the gravity of problems in your life, sometimes stretching the truth to maintain a facade or to avoid the chance of being abandoned.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  8. You struggle with communication, finding it challenging to express your true feelings and opinions openly and honestly, without guilt or shame.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  9. You tend to be overly obsessed with your partner’s actions and whereabouts, wanting to know details that they may consider to infringe upon their personal boundaries.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  10. You sometimes feel guilty without a clear reason, especially when it comes to spending time or resources on yourself, resulting in a conflict with healthy self-care.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  11. You depend heavily on your relationships for a sense of self-esteem, constantly seeking validation externally, and forming bonds with individuals who may not be able to provide the love and support you need.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  12. You may experience problems in your sexual relationships, including dissatisfaction or engaging in sexual activities that you don’t desire.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  13. You might fell like a victim, feeling trapped in your circumstances and blaming yourself or others for the situations you find yourself in.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  14. You live with a pervasive sense of fear and mistrust, doubting your own judgments and decisions, and lacking confidence in your ability to make sound choices.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  15. You may keep finding yourself in chaotic and crises fuelled situations, even feeling a sense of emptiness or boredom in their absence<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  16. You may come from a dysfunctional family background, but tend to deny or downplay the extent of the family issues.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  17. You’re surrounded by individuals who are troubled, needy or demonstrate unhealthy behaviour, such as narcissism<\/a>.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n
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    What causes co-dependency?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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    If you’re a codependent person, you’ve probably inherited your characteristics from a family of origin – the patterns of codependence can be passed down for generations. If the family you grew up in was dysfunctional, you may have had narcissistic or emotionally immature parents, or there might have been chemical or alcohol abuse. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Growing up in an unstable environment can mean frequent conflict or chaos, fear around self expression and play, and a lack of loving support. As a young child, you’ll have absorbed the behaviours your parents exhibited around creating boundaries, practicing self care and emotional regulation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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    “…less-than-nurturing or dysfunctional parenting techniques create abused children who adapt into codependent adults. The abuse may have been blatant and obvious or more subtle and hidden, but its effects on us are real and disruptive to our lives\u201d<\/p>\nPia Mellody<\/cite><\/blockquote>\n\n<\/div>\n\n\n

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    The 4 pillars of codependency therapy<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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    Codependency therapy has many aspects to it, including exploring your family of origin, identifying faulty thinking patterns, and challenging skewed perceptions. It can be categorised into four broad sections:<\/p>\n\n\n\n